Wellismo Mind
Success Doesn’t Create Happiness- You Do
A year of failure Over the course of this year, my long term relationship ended and I was terminated from my job. The silver lining of the failure and pain I've endured is that I've had some hands-on experience delving into the concepts of success and happiness. I'm...
The Pattern of Evolution
When obstacles arise in life, one of the things I like to do is look at them from two lenses: the first is very close up micro lens where I dig into the nuts and bolts of it. Then, I zoom way out and look at it from a macro lens. Doing so allows me to observe patterns...
Your Reputation is None of Your Business
Reputation is defined as the set beliefs and opinions that are generally held about someone or something. We spend a lot of time trying to manage our reputation because it tends to dictate our social experiences. Professionally, having a good reputation can lead to...
6 Practical Tips to Overcome Pride Hangover
Wash off the face paint and sweep up the glitter, Pride celebrations are over for another year. In Toronto we were blessed with perfect weather which contributed to one of the best Prides in recent history. While Pride can be a celebratory and exhilarating experience,...
6 Steps to a More Mindful Instagram Experience
Instagram’s pilot project of removing the number of post likes is generating much-needed discussion about social media and its impact on our mental health. Social media platforms are being targeted for fueling a mental health crisis, as studies are showing...
Self-Doubt: The Key to Self-Confidence
Self-confidence is sexy. Everyone wants to have more of it and we envy those who (we think) have more of it than we do. But not many people talk about it's ugly twin brother, self-doubt. Yet it is the people who know how to...
What is Wellismo?
I am the first to admit that I live in a bubble. To many outside the bubble I am the cliché white cis-gendered gay man, living the swingin' downtown bachelor lifestyle. But you know what? I’m totally okay with that. I feel blessed that this is my life. There was a...
The Power of Goodbye
I have to thank my dearly departed grandfather for my first lesson in the power of goodbye. He was the typical Italian Nonno in that his garden was a Noah's ark of plant life. Since I was obsessed with plants and trees, I followed him around, helping him tend to the...
5 Reasons Why You’re Unlucky in Love
Spoiler alert: it has nothing to do with luck Traditional wisdom tells us that if you're relatively attractive and have a charming personality, it should be easy enough to find love- especially in the connected world of social media and dating apps. Yet we all know...
Automatic Thoughts and the Power of Choice
Take your thoughts out of automatic mode to create the results you want. One of the most powerful and life-changing concepts I have learned is the power of choice. We cannot control the events and circumstances of our lives, but we always have the power to choose how...
3 Simple Steps to Reduce Emotional Pain
There are two kinds of emotional pain: the kind that we can't control, and the kind we can. My boyfriend dumped me. Sucks right? A break up is a perfect example of one of those shitty things that happens in life that is completely out of our control. And for me, that...
4 Limiting Beliefs and How to Handle Them
Practical tips on managing those pesky limiting beliefs Limiting beliefs are those thoughts that we have gotten so used to thinking that they have turned into seemingly hard-wired beliefs. These are thoughts that do not serve us and prevent us from achieving our...