Wellismo Sexuality & Relationships
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As Canadians, we take great pride in our LGBTQ rights and we have good reason to: ours are among the most advanced in the world and our urban centres are a beacon of hope and opportunity for queer people outside our borders. Living downtown, I often meet people that...
6 Practical Tips to Overcome Pride Hangover
Wash off the face paint and sweep up the glitter, Pride celebrations are over for another year. In Toronto we were blessed with perfect weather which contributed to one of the best Prides in recent history. While Pride can be a celebratory and exhilarating experience,...
Why Gay Bars Matter
Another one bites the dust. The news of Fly’s impending closure is the latest in a series of losses in our Village. This one hits home for me. Years before I moved downtown, my first true gay bar experience was at an event at Fly called Grapefruit. Growing up gay in...
The Case For and Against Casual Sex
Over the course of history, gay men have made an art form of seeking and engaging in casual sex. Also known as NSA (no strings attached), casual sex comes in many flavours from friends with benefits (FWB) and fuck buddies (FB) to anonymous ("anon") encounters where...
3 Phrases We Need to Abolish
Have you ever tried to explain to your straight friends or family what NSA, PNP, BB bukkake is? They would probably be horrified (Google that at your own risk). Gay lingo can be incredibly amusing, colourful, and effective. However, there are some terms that on closer...
What is Wellismo?
I am the first to admit that I live in a bubble. To many outside the bubble I am the cliché white cis-gendered gay man, living the swingin' downtown bachelor lifestyle. But you know what? I’m totally okay with that. I feel blessed that this is my life. There was a...
It’s Official: Instagram is the New Grindr
Instagram is making Grindr irrelevant in 2019 Years ago I was dating someone who opened my eyes to the emergence of Instagram as a dating app. For the record, we didn't meet online - it was an organic encounter (gasp!)- and so we had no prior knowledge of each other....
5 Reasons Why You’re Unlucky in Love
Spoiler alert: it has nothing to do with luck Traditional wisdom tells us that if you're relatively attractive and have a charming personality, it should be easy enough to find love- especially in the connected world of social media and dating apps. Yet we all know...
Don’t Let Your Love of Sex Prevent You from Pursuing a Spiritual Practice
Yes, you can pursue both spiritual practice and sexual prowess. Sometimes it seems like I exist in two contradictory communities. First is the spiritual community that believes in a higher power and seeks to establish a relationship to that power beyond the dogma of...
3 Lessons the Steam Room Creepers Taught Me
The steam room can be an interesting place to practice mindfulness Anyone who enjoys the benefits of a good steam or sauna after a workout knows about the creepy men who seem to be permanent fixtures in the locker room. Do they ever actually work out? Do they have...