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Is It Fetishizing or Just a Preference?
Do you ever find yourself only chasing a certain type? Straight guys.Black guys.Daddies. Twinks. Jocks. Bears.Emotionally unavailable “maybe he’s curious” masc…
Anatomy of a Shame Spiral (And How To Break It)
Does this sound familiar? You do or say something wrong (or you think you did) You start overanalyzing it You…
My Story
When I came out at the age of 19, I thought that the shame, secrets, and fear that plagued me…
I’m giving it all away (even though they said it’s a bad idea…)
“Don’t show them your framework.” That’s what a lot of coaches and counselors in my industry say to me. “Make…
60,000 thoughts per day…but how many do you actually need?
Researchers say we have approximately 60,000 thoughts per day. Some of them are useful. Most of them are not. I…
From FOMO to JOMO: Finding Joy in Missing Out
Recently, I shared how I’d taken a hiatus from Grindr and encouraged you to step away from any app that…
10 days off Grindr: The app-free challenge
Once I made it my goal to take a hiatus from Grindr. I felt it had stopped being useful and…
Inside the Bathhouse: My time at the famous Deutsche
I’ve talked about Bathhouse Basics before… but I want to fill you in on my *new* fave bathhouse/gay sauna – located in…
The simple lesson I learned in an Italian piazza: life is meant to be savoured, not rushed.
I arrived in Turin on a Tuesday one summer and if there’s one thing that truly stood out to me…
Is It Fetishizing or Just a Preference?
Do you ever find yourself only chasing a certain type? Straight guys.Black guys.Daddies. Twinks. Jocks. Bears.Emotionally unavailable “maybe he’s curious” masc…
Anatomy of a Shame Spiral (And How To Break It)
Does this sound familiar? You do or say something wrong (or you think you did) You start overanalyzing it You…
From FOMO to JOMO: Finding Joy in Missing Out
Recently, I shared how I’d taken a hiatus from Grindr and encouraged you to step away from any app that…
10 days off Grindr: The app-free challenge
Once I made it my goal to take a hiatus from Grindr. I felt it had stopped being useful and…
Inside the Bathhouse: My time at the famous Deutsche
I’ve talked about Bathhouse Basics before… but I want to fill you in on my *new* fave bathhouse/gay sauna – located in…
Tales from Inside the Closet: I came out on National Coming Out Day
Believe it or not, one of the greatest coincidences of my life is that I actually came out for the…
7 Films That Will Ignite Your Inner Activist
If I was born 20 years earlier, I probably wouldn’t have made it to my 30th birthday. The impact of…
Life Coaching for Gay Men
Bathhouse Basics
The gay bathhouse experience is a staple of gay culture that has survived police raids, AIDS, and the emergence of…
Anatomy of a Shame Spiral (And How To Break It)
Does this sound familiar? You do or say something wrong (or you think you did) You start overanalyzing it You…
I’m giving it all away (even though they said it’s a bad idea…)
“Don’t show them your framework.” That’s what a lot of coaches and counselors in my industry say to me. “Make…
From FOMO to JOMO: Finding Joy in Missing Out
Recently, I shared how I’d taken a hiatus from Grindr and encouraged you to step away from any app that…
The simple lesson I learned in an Italian piazza: life is meant to be savoured, not rushed.
I arrived in Turin on a Tuesday one summer and if there’s one thing that truly stood out to me…
Tales from Inside the Closet: I came out on National Coming Out Day
Believe it or not, one of the greatest coincidences of my life is that I actually came out for the…
Do you go through life waiting for the other shoe to drop? Let’s change that.
Have ever have one of those moments where life’s just… good? Everything is flowing, your projects are on track, relationships…
7 guiding principles for a happy life
I want to share with you seven guiding principles that significantly contribute to my sense of happiness and inner peace….
Seasons of the Soul
Let\’s talk about rhythm, The Earth orbits around the sun, the moon travels around the Earth, the Earth completes a…
Messy Healing
In Week 3 of the Shamelessly Gay Men’s Group we covered the topic of internalized homophobia. This is not an easy topic. …
Anatomy of a Shame Spiral (And How To Break It)
Does this sound familiar? You do or say something wrong (or you think you did) You start overanalyzing it You…
I’m giving it all away (even though they said it’s a bad idea…)
“Don’t show them your framework.” That’s what a lot of coaches and counselors in my industry say to me. “Make…
60,000 thoughts per day…but how many do you actually need?
Researchers say we have approximately 60,000 thoughts per day. Some of them are useful. Most of them are not. I…
From FOMO to JOMO: Finding Joy in Missing Out
Recently, I shared how I’d taken a hiatus from Grindr and encouraged you to step away from any app that…
10 days off Grindr: The app-free challenge
Once I made it my goal to take a hiatus from Grindr. I felt it had stopped being useful and…
The simple lesson I learned in an Italian piazza: life is meant to be savoured, not rushed.
I arrived in Turin on a Tuesday one summer and if there’s one thing that truly stood out to me…
Tales from Inside the Closet: I came out on National Coming Out Day
Believe it or not, one of the greatest coincidences of my life is that I actually came out for the…
Do you go through life waiting for the other shoe to drop? Let’s change that.
Have ever have one of those moments where life’s just… good? Everything is flowing, your projects are on track, relationships…
You aren’t born with self-confidence, you have to create it.
Someone recently told me that they found confidence “intimidating” and that they “could never be like that”. Unfortunately, many of…