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When I came out at the age of 19, I thought that the shame, secrets, and fear that plagued me…
This is what men are craving (but rarely find)
Sometimes, you just need to find the right person. Someone who listens without judgment. Someone who stays grounded and present…
No Regrets: a Simplified Decision-Making Process
It’s a powerful thing to be able to naturally see both sides of everything. The pros and the cons. The potential gains and the…
I’m giving it all away (even though they said it’s a bad idea…)
“Don’t show them your framework.” That’s what a lot of coaches and counselors in my industry say to me. “Make…
60,000 thoughts per day…but how many do you actually need?
Researchers say we have approximately 60,000 thoughts per day. Some of them are useful. Most of them are not. I…
From FOMO to JOMO: Finding Joy in Missing Out
Recently, I shared how I’d taken a hiatus from Grindr and encouraged you to step away from any app that…
10 days off Grindr: The app-free challenge
Once I made it my goal to take a hiatus from Grindr. I felt it had stopped being useful and…
Inside the Bathhouse: My time at the famous Deutsche
I’ve talked about Bathhouse Basics before… but I want to fill you in on my *new* fave bathhouse/gay sauna – located in…
The simple lesson I learned in an Italian piazza: life is meant to be savoured, not rushed.
I arrived in Turin on a Tuesday one summer and if there’s one thing that truly stood out to me…
Lawrence
Invisible Minorities is a series where we delve into the complexities, joys, and pains of being a person of colour…
Invisible Minorities Series: White Privilege
In some of my previous blog posts, I espoused the many benefits and advantages of being part of the gay…
True North Strong and Free
As Canadians, we take great pride in our LGBTQ rights and we have good reason to: ours are among the…
6 Practical Tips to Overcome Pride Hangover
Wash off the face paint and sweep up the glitter, Pride celebrations are over for another year. In Toronto we…
Why Gay Bars Matter
Another one bites the dust. The news of Fly’s impending closure is the latest in a series of losses in…
The Case For and Against Casual Sex
Over the course of history, gay men have made an art form of seeking and engaging in casual sex. Also…
3 Phrases We Need to Abolish
Have you ever tried to explain to your straight friends or family what NSA, PNP, BB bukkake is? They would…
What is Wellismo?
I am the first to admit that I live in a bubble. To many outside the bubble I am the…
It’s Official: Instagram is the New Grindr
Instagram is making Grindr irrelevant in 2019 Years ago I was dating someone who opened my eyes to the emergence…
7 guiding principles for a happy life
I want to share with you seven guiding principles that significantly contribute to my sense of happiness and inner peace….
Seasons of the Soul
Let\’s talk about rhythm, The Earth orbits around the sun, the moon travels around the Earth, the Earth completes a…
Messy Healing
A topic we cover in many of Wellismo’s Men’s Groups is internalized homophobia. This is not an easy topic. Confronting…
7 Films That Will Ignite Your Inner Activist
If I was born 20 years earlier, I probably wouldn’t have made it to my 30th birthday. The impact of…
Life Coaching for Gay Men
Let the Adversity Awaken You
Photo by Simon Wilkes on Unsplash It’s common in our modern society to shrug off spirituality as an airy fairy, woo woo concept…
How Christianity Rebranded the Winter Solstice: The Pagan Origins of Christmas
The solstice is one of my favourite days of the year because it marks the return of light and the…
We’re All in This Together
For the first time since I’ve been eligible to vote, I will not be voting in this federal election. Not…
The Pattern of Evolution
When obstacles arise in life, one of the things I like to do is look at them from two lenses:…
I’m giving it all away (even though they said it’s a bad idea…)
“Don’t show them your framework.” That’s what a lot of coaches and counselors in my industry say to me. “Make…
60,000 thoughts per day…but how many do you actually need?
Researchers say we have approximately 60,000 thoughts per day. Some of them are useful. Most of them are not. I…
From FOMO to JOMO: Finding Joy in Missing Out
Recently, I shared how I’d taken a hiatus from Grindr and encouraged you to step away from any app that…
10 days off Grindr: The app-free challenge
Once I made it my goal to take a hiatus from Grindr. I felt it had stopped being useful and…
The simple lesson I learned in an Italian piazza: life is meant to be savoured, not rushed.
I arrived in Turin on a Tuesday one summer and if there’s one thing that truly stood out to me…
Tales from Inside the Closet: I came out on National Coming Out Day
Believe it or not, one of the greatest coincidences of my life is that I actually came out for the…
The Drama Triangle: Which role are you playing?
Do you ever notice that you end up in recurring patterns in your relationships? The same conflicts seem to surface…
Do you go through life waiting for the other shoe to drop? Let’s change that.
Have ever have one of those moments where life’s just… good? Everything is flowing, your projects are on track, relationships…
7 Secrets to Building Friendships That Feel Easy, Comfortable, and Lasting
Let’s face it—building a solid, lasting friendship in adulthood isn’t easy. We don’t have the built-in structure of school or…