Do you ever find yourself only chasing a certain type? Straight guys.Black guys.Daddies. Twinks. Jocks. Bears.Emotionally unavailable “maybe he’s curious” masc bros? If you notice trends and patterns of the types
Is It Fetishizing or Just a Preference? Read More »
Does this sound familiar? If you’re nodding along… I totally get it. This, my friend, is called a shame spiral. Let’s break it down: The 5 Stages of a Shame Spiral 1.
Anatomy of a Shame Spiral (And How To Break It) Read More »
When I came out at the age of 19, I thought that the shame, secrets, and fear that plagued me during my teenage years would melt away. While it was
“Don’t show them your framework.” That’s what a lot of coaches and counselors in my industry say to me. “Make them need you,” they say. “If you give it away,
I’m giving it all away (even though they said it’s a bad idea…) Read More »
Researchers say we have approximately 60,000 thoughts per day. Some of them are useful. Most of them are not. I often tell my clients to think of their mind like
60,000 thoughts per day…but how many do you actually need? Read More »
Recently, I shared how I’d taken a hiatus from Grindr and encouraged you to step away from any app that felt like it was draining your time and energy. The
From FOMO to JOMO: Finding Joy in Missing Out Read More »
Once I made it my goal to take a hiatus from Grindr. I felt it had stopped being useful and was draining too much of my time. 10 days in,
10 days off Grindr: The app-free challenge Read More »
I’ve talked about Bathhouse Basics before… but I want to fill you in on my *new* fave bathhouse/gay sauna – located in Munich. I’ve been to bathhouses all over the world (I
Inside the Bathhouse: My time at the famous Deutsche Read More »
I arrived in Turin on a Tuesday one summer and if there’s one thing that truly stood out to me since arriving, it’s how different the pace of life is.
