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You aren’t born with self-confidence, you have to create it.
Someone recently told me that they found confidence “intimidating” and that they “could never be like that”. Unfortunately, many of…
7 guiding principles for a happy life
I want to share with you seven guiding principles that significantly contribute to my sense of happiness and inner peace….
Seasons of the Soul
Let\’s talk about rhythm, The Earth orbits around the sun, the moon travels around the Earth, the Earth completes a…
Messy Healing
In Week 3 of the Shamelessly Gay Men’s Group we covered the topic of internalized homophobia. This is not an easy topic. …
7 Films That Will Ignite Your Inner Activist
If I was born 20 years earlier, I probably wouldn’t have made it to my 30th birthday. The impact of…
Life Coaching for Gay Men
5 Reasons You Don’t Ask For What You Want
Wouldn’t it be great if you never had to ask for what you want? Imagine if everyone in your life…
Bathhouse Basics
The gay bathhouse experience is a staple of gay culture that has survived police raids, AIDS, and the emergence of…
12 Questions to Ask Before Starting a Relationship
Photo by Ketut Subiyanto from Pexels Often, the relationship questions we tend to ask are about appearance or personality. While…
Invisible Minorities Series: White Privilege
In some of my previous blog posts, I espoused the many benefits and advantages of being part of the gay…
True North Strong and Free
As Canadians, we take great pride in our LGBTQ rights and we have good reason to: ours are among the…
6 Practical Tips to Overcome Pride Hangover
Wash off the face paint and sweep up the glitter, Pride celebrations are over for another year. In Toronto we…
Why Gay Bars Matter
Another one bites the dust. The news of Fly’s impending closure is the latest in a series of losses in…
The Case For and Against Casual Sex
Over the course of history, gay men have made an art form of seeking and engaging in casual sex. Also…
3 Phrases We Need to Abolish
Have you ever tried to explain to your straight friends or family what NSA, PNP, BB bukkake is? They would…
What is Wellismo?
I am the first to admit that I live in a bubble. To many outside the bubble I am the…
It’s Official: Instagram is the New Grindr
Instagram is making Grindr irrelevant in 2019 Years ago I was dating someone who opened my eyes to the emergence…
5 Reasons Why You’re Unlucky in Love
Spoiler alert: it has nothing to do with luck Traditional wisdom tells us that if you’re relatively attractive and have…
We’re All in This Together
For the first time since I’ve been eligible to vote, I will not be voting in this federal election. Not…
The Pattern of Evolution
When obstacles arise in life, one of the things I like to do is look at them from two lenses:…
Lean into the Darkness: 4 stages of a dark night of the soul
The unexpected death of a loved one. A terminal diagnosis. Losing your job and source of livelihood. A painful relationship…
What is Wellismo?
I am the first to admit that I live in a bubble. To many outside the bubble I am the…
The Power of Goodbye
I have to thank my dearly departed grandfather for my first lesson in the power of goodbye. He was the…
Don’t Let Your Love of Sex Prevent You from Pursuing a Spiritual Practice
Yes, you can pursue both spiritual practice and sexual prowess. Sometimes it seems like I exist in two contradictory communities….
The Law of Gender: The Balance Behind Every Creation
Creation requires both yin and yang Both masculine and feminine energy are required in balance to create anything. If you’ve ever brought an idea to…
The Law of Rhythm: Everything Moves, Everything Changes
Nothing is permanent Nothing lasts forever. And that’s a good thing. The Law of Rhythm says that everything in the universe operates…
The Law of Polarity: You Can’t Have One Without the Other
Everything has an opposite on the same continuum How would you know what heat is if you didn’t experience cold? How would you know the feeling of…
Life Coaching for Gay Men
5 Reasons You Don’t Ask For What You Want
Wouldn’t it be great if you never had to ask for what you want? Imagine if everyone in your life…
12 Questions to Ask Before Starting a Relationship
Photo by Ketut Subiyanto from Pexels Often, the relationship questions we tend to ask are about appearance or personality. While…
Jealousy vs. Envy (and what to do about it)
Jealousy and envy often get mixed up because they feel similarly awful. Let’s dissect the difference between jealousy and envy….
The Wisdom of Regret
Have you ever said or done something in a fit of anger and immediately regretted it? Have you ever thought…
What to Do About Your Blind Spot
You have a blind spot. Psychologically speaking, a blind spot is an unseen mental obstacle. Unlike physical blind spots, this…
3 Powerful Coaching Questions
Part of my job as a coach is to ask powerful questions to help clients discover themselves and reveal truths…
How to Disagree
People are allowed to believe whatever they want and have their own opinions. Free will is a tenet of our…
A 4-Step Process for Anxiety Relief
Photo by Marquise Kamanke on Unsplash Step 1: Understand We are living through a moment of significant change and unprecedented global disruption. Naturally, this…