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Bathhouse Basics
The gay bathhouse experience is a staple of gay culture that has survived police raids, AIDS, and the emergence of…
12 Questions to Ask Before Starting a Relationship
Photo by Ketut Subiyanto from Pexels Often, the relationship questions we tend to ask are about appearance or personality. While…
Jealousy vs. Envy (and what to do about it)
Jealousy and envy often get mixed up because they feel similarly awful. Let’s dissect the difference between jealousy and envy….
The Wisdom of Regret
Have you ever said or done something in a fit of anger and immediately regretted it? Have you ever thought…
Pride Is For You
Pride is a celebration of community, diversity, and inclusion for the LGBTQ2+ community and our allies. But a lot of…
What to Do About Your Blind Spot
You have a blind spot. Psychologically speaking, a blind spot is an unseen mental obstacle. Unlike physical blind spots, this…
3 Powerful Coaching Questions
Part of my job as a coach is to ask powerful questions to help clients discover themselves and reveal truths…
Intimacy Is More Than Sex
Sex and intimacy are not the same thing. Intimacy is a feeling of closeness, familiarity, and a sense of mutual…
Love Him or Leave Him
Note: If you are in a relationship where your safety is at risk, this does not apply. Please read this…
True North Strong and Free
As Canadians, we take great pride in our LGBTQ rights and we have good reason to: ours are among the…
6 Practical Tips to Overcome Pride Hangover
Wash off the face paint and sweep up the glitter, Pride celebrations are over for another year. In Toronto we…
Why Gay Bars Matter
Another one bites the dust. The news of Fly’s impending closure is the latest in a series of losses in…
The Case For and Against Casual Sex
Over the course of history, gay men have made an art form of seeking and engaging in casual sex. Also…
3 Phrases We Need to Abolish
Have you ever tried to explain to your straight friends or family what NSA, PNP, BB bukkake is? They would…
What is Wellismo?
I am the first to admit that I live in a bubble. To many outside the bubble I am the…
It’s Official: Instagram is the New Grindr
Instagram is making Grindr irrelevant in 2019 Years ago I was dating someone who opened my eyes to the emergence…
5 Reasons Why You’re Unlucky in Love
Spoiler alert: it has nothing to do with luck Traditional wisdom tells us that if you’re relatively attractive and have…
Don’t Let Your Love of Sex Prevent You from Pursuing a Spiritual Practice
Yes, you can pursue both spiritual practice and sexual prowess. Sometimes it seems like I exist in two contradictory communities….
Don’t Let Your Love of Sex Prevent You from Pursuing a Spiritual Practice
Yes, you can pursue both spiritual practice and sexual prowess. Sometimes it seems like I exist in two contradictory communities….
12. The Law of Gender
Creation requires both yin and yang Both masculine and feminine energy are required in balance to create anything. Sexual reproduction of species is a great…
11. The Law of Rhythm
Nothing is permanent The Earth orbits around the sun, the moon travels around the Earth, the Earth completes a rotation every 24…
10. The Law of Polarity
Everything has an opposite on the same continuum How would you know what heat is if you didn’t experience cold? How would you know the feeling of…
9. The Law of Relativity
It’s all relative Picture this: you wake up to find it oddly bright for so early in the morning. That’s when you…
8. The Law of Perpetual Transmutation of Energy
Energy is always in motion and changing forms This is one of my favourites when I’m feeling especially stuck. So far we’ve talked about the importance of…
7. The Law of Compensation
You will be compensated based on what you give This is an extension of The Law of Cause and Effect, specific to compensation in the physical world –…
6. The Law of Cause and Effect
Every action has a reaction The principle that one’s intentions and actions influence the future of that individual is so omnipresent that it comes…
5. The Law of Action
You must take action to get results As nice as it would be to sit on your butt and meditate things into reality, it doesn’t…
How to Disagree
People are allowed to believe whatever they want and have their own opinions. Free will is a tenet of our…
A 4-Step Process for Anxiety Relief
Photo by Marquise Kamanke on Unsplash Step 1: Understand We are living through a moment of significant change and unprecedented global disruption. Naturally, this…
How Coaching Is Different From Therapy
I recently achieved my goal of becoming a wellness coach with the International Association of Wellness Professionals. The first question…
6 Mental Habits to Quit so You Can Soar in the New Year
As we approach the New Year, New Me phase, I’m here to remind you that unless you change your mindset,…
25 Ways to Say No
Saying no is hard for many of us. Often it’s because we don’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings or we…
Overcoming Loneliness
I’ve struggled with loneliness for as long as I can remember. I was a quiet, shy kid who found it…
Success Doesn’t Create Happiness- You Do
A year of failure Over the course of this year, my long term relationship ended and I was terminated from…
The Pattern of Evolution
When obstacles arise in life, one of the things I like to do is look at them from two lenses:…
Your Reputation is None of Your Business
Reputation is defined as the set beliefs and opinions that are generally held about someone or something. We spend a…