Once I made it my goal to take a hiatus from Grindr. I felt it had stopped being useful and was draining too much of my time.
10 days in, I didn’t use any dating apps. While it wasn’t always easy, it was eye-opening in several ways.
Here’s what I noticed during my time offline and the big benefits too :
Observations from 10 days off Grindr
1. Breaking the procrastination cycle
At first, I noticed how often I’d instinctively reach for my phone during “boring” day-to-day tasks. The app was a procrastination mechanism that I used to escape things I didn’t want to deal with– but still needed my attention.
✅ Impact: I’m now getting through my to do list faster and feeling more focused.
2. Eliminating the empty chats
I also noticed I’d reach for the app when I was tired or bored – not actually when I was looking to have meaningful conversations or actually meet people.
✅ Impact: No more wasting mine or anyone else’s time with empty chats that lead nowhere.
3. Reclaiming my time
During the holidays, I was spending 1-3 hours a day on the app . As an entrepreneur, my time is an investment and that’s time I can’t afford to waste. From that perspective, Grindr was a sunk cost with zero ROI.
✅ Impact: With that time back, I’m turning my ideas into reality by creating new courses, programs, and podcast episodes.
Challenges still arise
It hasn’t been smooth sailing. There were moments when the urge to check felt almost irresistible, and I wondered if I was missing out on the action. But here’s the thing: sitting with those feelings instead of escaping them has been surprisingly empowering.
Give it a try
Grindr was my distraction, but maybe for you, it’s Instagram, TikTok, or another app that’s draining your time and energy. Ask yourself:
- “How much time or energy is this app taking up in my life?”
- “What could I gain by stepping away, even for a week?”
My challenge to you:
Go app-free for one week. Here’s how to do it:
- Remove one app from your phone starting today. You can always download it again once your hiatus is over.
- The first 3 days will be the hardest. Push through, and it will feel more normal.
- Notice the distractions. Pay attention to when your brain wants to reach for the app and why. This is important self-awareness for you to have!
- Reclaim your time. Don’t just find another app to use. Instead, use that time to connect with humans, tackle chores, or do some self-care.
If you’re ready to take an app hiatus, I’d love to hear about your experience— share in the comments below and let me know how it goes!
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