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7 Secrets to Building Friendships That Feel Easy, Comfortable, and Lasting
Let’s face it—building a solid, lasting friendship in adulthood isn’t easy. We don’t have the built-in structure of school or…
You aren’t born with self-confidence, you have to create it.
Someone recently told me that they found confidence “intimidating” and that they “could never be like that”. Unfortunately, many of…
7 guiding principles for a happy life
I want to share with you seven guiding principles that significantly contribute to my sense of happiness and inner peace….
Seasons of the Soul
Let\’s talk about rhythm, The Earth orbits around the sun, the moon travels around the Earth, the Earth completes a…
Messy Healing
A topic we cover in many of Wellismo’s Men’s Groups is internalized homophobia. This is not an easy topic. Confronting…
7 Films That Will Ignite Your Inner Activist
If I was born 20 years earlier, I probably wouldn’t have made it to my 30th birthday. The impact of…
Life Coaching for Gay Men
5 Reasons You Don’t Ask For What You Want
Wouldn’t it be great if you never had to ask for what you want? Imagine if everyone in your life…
Bathhouse Basics
The gay bathhouse experience is a staple of gay culture that has survived police raids, AIDS, and the emergence of…
Don’t Let Your Love of Sex Prevent You from Pursuing a Spiritual Practice
Yes, you can pursue both spiritual practice and sexual prowess. Sometimes it seems like I exist in two contradictory communities….
3 Lessons the Steam Room Creepers Taught Me
The steam room can be an interesting place to practice mindfulness Anyone who enjoys the benefits of a good steam…
Lean into the Darkness: 4 stages of a dark night of the soul
The unexpected death of a loved one. A terminal diagnosis. Losing your job and source of livelihood. A painful relationship…
What is Wellismo?
I am the first to admit that I live in a bubble. To many outside the bubble I am the…
The Power of Goodbye
I have to thank my dearly departed grandfather for my first lesson in the power of goodbye. He was the…
Don’t Let Your Love of Sex Prevent You from Pursuing a Spiritual Practice
Yes, you can pursue both spiritual practice and sexual prowess. Sometimes it seems like I exist in two contradictory communities….
The Law of Gender: The Balance Behind Every Creation
Creation requires both yin and yang Both masculine and feminine energy are required in balance to create anything. If you’ve ever brought an idea to…
The Law of Rhythm: Everything Moves, Everything Changes
Nothing is permanent Nothing lasts forever. And that’s a good thing. The Law of Rhythm says that everything in the universe operates…
The Law of Polarity: You Can’t Have One Without the Other
Everything has an opposite on the same continuum How would you know what heat is if you didn’t experience cold? How would you know the feeling of…
The Law of Relativity: It’s Only Bad Because You Compared It To Something Better
Let’s set the scene. You wake up late because your phone died. Your alarm never went off.You rush out the…
The Law of Perpetual Transmutation of Energy: You’re Not Stuck
Energy is always in motion and changing forms This is one of my favourites when I’m feeling especially stuck. So far we’ve talked about the importance of…
Messy Healing
A topic we cover in many of Wellismo’s Men’s Groups is internalized homophobia. This is not an easy topic. Confronting…
Life Coaching for Gay Men
5 Reasons You Don’t Ask For What You Want
Wouldn’t it be great if you never had to ask for what you want? Imagine if everyone in your life…
Ask Yourself These Questions Before Starting a Relationship
Photo by Ketut Subiyanto from Pexels Often, the relationship questions we tend to ask are about appearance or personality. While…
Jealousy vs. Envy (and what to do about it)
Jealousy and envy often get mixed up because they feel similarly awful. Let’s dissect the difference between jealousy and envy….
The Wisdom of Regret
Have you ever said or done something in a fit of anger and immediately regretted it? Have you ever thought…
What to Do About Your Blind Spot
You have a blind spot. Psychologically speaking, a blind spot is an unseen mental obstacle. Unlike physical blind spots, this…
3 Powerful Coaching Questions
Part of my job as a coach is to ask powerful questions to help clients discover themselves and reveal truths…
How to Disagree
People are allowed to believe whatever they want and have their own opinions. Free will is a tenet of our…