Messy Healing
In Week 3 of the Shamelessly Gay Men’s Group we covered the topic of internalized homophobia. This is not an easy topic. Confronting your own homophobic thoughts and attitudes can be quite jarring, especially if you are an out and proud member of the...
Life Coaching for Gay Men
A gay life coach provides a supportive, non-judgmental space for LGBTQ+ clients to work towards creating a more fulfilling and authentic life.
5 Reasons You Don’t Ask For What You Want
Wouldn’t it be great if you never had to ask for what you want? Imagine if everyone in your life could anticipate your every desire, saving you the hassle of having to ask. Unfortunately, for a lot of people, the simple matter of asking creates an...
Bathhouse Basics
The gay bathhouse experience is a staple of gay culture that has survived police raids, AIDS, and the emergence of online dating and apps. Through the times, bathhouses have remained true to their roots: they are places where men can have casual sex with men,...
12 Questions to Ask Before Starting a Relationship
Photo by Ketut Subiyanto from Pexels Often, the relationship questions we tend to ask are about appearance or personality. While that is important to an extent, there is a treasure trove of valuable information stored deep within ourselves. Only well-crafted questions...
Jealousy vs. Envy (and what to do about it)
Jealousy and envy often get mixed up because they feel similarly awful. Let’s dissect the difference between jealousy and envy. A few years ago when I started Wellismo, I stumbled upon a video of a young man on Instagram with genuine eyes and a soothing voice...
The Wisdom of Regret
Have you ever said or done something in a fit of anger and immediately regretted it? Have you ever thought “I wish I had taken that chance when I had it?” Both of these are examples of REGRET. Regret is truly nasty feeling, and often comes with a side...
Pride Is For You
Pride is a celebration of community, diversity, and inclusion for the LGBTQ2+ community and our allies. But a lot of groups feel left out. This is an ode to those people: Pride is for the survivors the plague who feel invisible to an entire generation of men who will...
What to Do About Your Blind Spot
You have a blind spot. Psychologically speaking, a blind spot is an unseen mental obstacle. Unlike physical blind spots, this one is in the abyss of your deep inner world. Even the most self-aware among us cannot see their own blind spots. You don’t know what...