Messy Healing
In Week 3 of the Shamelessly Gay Men’s Group we covered the topic of internalized homophobia. This is not an easy topic. Confronting your own homophobic thoughts and attitudes can be quite jarring, especially if you are an out and proud member of the...
Life Coaching for Gay Men
A gay life coach provides a supportive, non-judgmental space for LGBTQ+ clients to work towards creating a more fulfilling and authentic life.
5 Reasons You Don’t Ask For What You Want
Wouldn’t it be great if you never had to ask for what you want? Imagine if everyone in your life could anticipate your every desire, saving you the hassle of having to ask. Unfortunately, for a lot of people, the simple matter of asking creates an...
Jealousy vs. Envy (and what to do about it)
Jealousy and envy often get mixed up because they feel similarly awful. Let’s dissect the difference between jealousy and envy. A few years ago when I started Wellismo, I stumbled upon a video of a young man on Instagram with genuine eyes and a soothing voice...
The Wisdom of Regret
Have you ever said or done something in a fit of anger and immediately regretted it? Have you ever thought “I wish I had taken that chance when I had it?” Both of these are examples of REGRET. Regret is truly nasty feeling, and often comes with a side...
What to Do About Your Blind Spot
You have a blind spot. Psychologically speaking, a blind spot is an unseen mental obstacle. Unlike physical blind spots, this one is in the abyss of your deep inner world. Even the most self-aware among us cannot see their own blind spots. You don’t know what...
Intimacy Is More Than Sex
Sex and intimacy are not the same thing. Intimacy is a feeling of closeness, familiarity, and a sense of mutual vulnerability. It is fundamental to our well being as social creatures. It isn’t constricted to romantic partnerships, but that’s what...
Love Him or Leave Him
Note: If you are in a relationship where your safety is at risk, this does not apply. Please read this instead. If you are in crisis and need to speak with someone immediately, visit www.goodhead.ca. I’ve been doing a lot of work in relationships with my clients...
How to Disagree
People are allowed to believe whatever they want and have their own opinions. Free will is a tenet of our human existence. This creates a breeding ground for disagreement: we’re all allowed to have our opinions and inevitably they will clash. Our minds are...